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I couldn’t be prouder

I couldn’t be prouder

Not a lot of people know this about me, but I ran away from home when I was 16. There were all sorts of reasons why, but the biggest one was that I thought I was ready to be independent (my parents didn’t really agree, but I didn’t seek their opinion). Of course looking back on it, I probably was NOT ready and took a whole bunch of sidesteps before I really found my stride as an adult and a human being. But one thing I know is if I was to do it all over again, I don’t know if I would do it differently. It fits my journey and its part of what made me the survivor I am today.

So, when my 17 year-old son told me last summer he was going to move out and head back to the US (where he has a green card), I was apprehensive, but not surprised. Tad (or Thaddeus by birth) is a lot like me. He’s always craved independence and never been one to follow the easy path anywhere. If someone gave him the choice between a treacherous course that had an uncertain destination and an easy route that ended in something certain, he’d definitely choose the treacherous course. Maybe it’s a quest for adventure or maybe it’s just rebelliousness, but I’ve always admired him for it.

Don’t get me wrong, I was concerned when he left. He had only worked at one job and that was for a couple of months. He also hadn’t finished high school and wasn’t looking too motivated to do so. He wasn’t super helpful around the house, either, making me think that he may not be as driven as he could be. But he landed in San Francisco in July and made a go of it. And guess what? He’s been doing pretty awesome. He got a job in August and has been working (albeit part time) ever since. He’s reconnected with old friends, made new friends and seems to be really enjoying life.

Then the other day he texts me: “I have a great idea for a startup.” I couldn’t be prouder! His idea was a good one, though it’s been done (I told him that it shouldn’t stop him from continuing to think up great ideas or even from pursuing it if he thinks he could do a better job!). He’s also getting tutoring to take his GED and told me his tutor thinks he’ll ace it. After that, he’s hoping to take a degree in graphic design at the Art Institute in San Francisco (who he interviewed with).

I know he’ll do well. He seems to be taking fewer side steps than I did at his age and he is more driven at his age than I ever was.

For now, though, he is looking for work in San Francisco. He’s working part-time for a bike store, but wants to take on more part-time work. He said he’ll do just about anything. As he said, “Even if ur friends need errands or something. I’ll work for minimum wage just for the experience!” :) He’s a smart kid. Fast learning. Reliable. Funny. And sweet (he’d hate that I describe him that way, but he is). He’s also a very talented artist. In pre-school, he was already drawing 3-D and perspective. I have folders full of the comic books he used to make and a few of the clay figurines he used to meticulously craft (then sell to my neighbors). Perhaps a job somewhere he could do various errands, but be pulled in for creative work every now and then would be perfect. Any startups looking for the next generation of creatives? That’s my son. :)

Here is his resume. I pointed him to Emurse and he did the rest. He updates it with every new job and skill he gets. Someone said there are typos, but I think it’s perfect (of course! I’m his mom!). You can contact him through Emurse or ping me on my contact form and I’ll get it to him.

Thank you in advance. He’s awesome. And I know I’m his mom so I’m biased…but I think you’d think so, too. :)

5 Responses to “I couldn’t be prouder”

  1. Good for you for letting him be who he is. I see that as a real struggle I will battle as Declan grows into a man.

  2. Halcyon says:

    Yay for you both! One of the greatest gifts my parents ever gave me was support when I choose a non-linear “career” path. Side steps are sometimes the most important ones. ((HUG))

  3. Rosie Sherry says:

    I was actually on his emurse resume the other day, via your twitter account, then his then his resume. I was very impressed :)

    If he were in the UK… :)

    Actually, not quite as young, but at 18 and without qualificiations, I left my family in Colombia, to come back to the UK where I was born and lived until I was 9. I did it financially on my own, I had to couchsurf for a bit, but put up with and enjoyed (for a limited time) all the crappy jobs to make sure I got by.

    All worked out in the end, I think!

  4. He’s one lucky kid to have you as his Mom! I think it’s awesome that you’ve trusted him so much and let him pave his own way this far. I’m sure he’ll do great!

    By the way, if he wants extra money out there he should check out TaskRabbit.com. My wife’s company worked on their site/product and they have a pretty cool system going on.

  5. Elsa Chang says:

    I think striking out and not following the linear path is the quickest way to grow as a person. I, too, ran away from home to America at age 17. I didn’t speak a word of English and was an illegal for a long time in both US and Canada. I did manage to finish two degrees without my parents’ help. I would have been a secretary and got married at age 18 as my parents expected me to do had I stayed at home.

    Thanks to all the people I met along the way who helped me become who I am now.

    So, if Tad ever needs any help in SF, just give me a shout.

    Elsa

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