- we speak a different language: just today I told a nice man who wants to meet me for coffee that I couldn’t because I had the Montreal Python meetup to go to. His response? “You are into snakes?!”
- the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for me is to use my avatar in the mockups of their web app. Flowers, poetry and the like just can’t quite measure up anymore.
- a list of some of the stuff that turns me on: hackathons, data, a vigorous debate on web standards, competing for the most badges on Foursquare, pushing to production from dev…see?
- most men are uncomfortable with our arguments being resolved on Quora.
- i kinda want to use the Angry Birds theme as my first wedding dance someday.
Bonus: using the word muggle brings on puzzled looks in the first place!
Have any more? 
[originally posted in the closed environment of FB, Tantek pointed out to me that my action of keeping this list hidden in a walled garden was limiting its potential...not to mention giving up ownership to the behemoth...a very non-muggle problem]
Ooh Tara this is why I love you!
My boyfriend is definitely not a muggle, he’s got leet skillz in the programming department. Though he’s not as keen on social media, so it’s a bit funny to see the dichotomy there. He’d totally dig the Python meetup, but web standards would fall below C++ on his list. 
As for me… I’m with you all the way. There’s something different about us internet people, and it’s not just our pale complexions.
Lmao awesome list and as for the pale internet ppl comment, that’s a horrible stereotype :p #igetmysunstill
Sadly, my wife has become a muggle.
And how do we meet these wizards exactly? my world is filled with muggles. And the sad thing is I agree with you.
Don’t tell me there’s yet another clique that thinks it’s clever and original to call outsiders ‘muggles’. I thought you guys were supposed to be inventive?!
“most men are uncomfortable with our arguments being resolved on Quora”.
I’d retort that most geeks would feel uncomfortable about using a site that requires a signup in order to see its contents
But I liked your list.
Pushing to production from dev can only be described as naughty.
@Nathalie
Does your boyfriend have a brother.
@Karl
I get sun, too. Yay for laptops and free wifi in the park!
@Russ
Oh noes! Suggestion: introduce her to AngryBirds.
@Jonathan
Sigh. I know.
@numpty
Inventiveness in the geek world includes borrowing from other worlds. Inventiveness + efficiency FTW!
@kikito – true dat. Somehow Quora has passed the test, though. ;P
Great post Tara;
My wife and I are both engineers (from different disciplines) – neither of us has any idea what the other is talking about but we are likewise quite confident that they do know. And if they don’t then, then they soon will or they’ll figure out how or they’ll ask the other for help. Throw in a precocious 4 Y.O. and it all makes complete sense to at least one of us.
Tara,
I can completely relate to your Number 2. I’m in that exact situation right now. However, I don’t think it’s about romance. Probably more about respect and convenience. Wouldn’t mind a bit though if romance was a factor. (In my dreams.)
Well done Tara
Blogged: http://tantek.com/2010/336/b1/dating-preferences-public-profiles-formats-federating
Well now that I meet your standards, when you come back into the bay we are going to hang out
I don’t like classifying folks as muggles or mundanes, but most mainstream boys and girls prefer serial monogamy to polyamory. Boring!
If you are interested in a relationship with someone for a lifetime, your 5 de-selection criteria: #1 thru #5 above, should not be things that you will think were really really really not that important 5 years from now.
Malcolm Gladwell talks a bit about this in “Blink”.
Just a thought.
but there are tons of guys who are looking for girls such as yourself! most of them are of the l33t class and are probably single.
And g33k girlz who are cute are always a premium.
most romantic line, ” I would fight through all the orcs in mordor, just to be with you”