I’m sure you didn’t mean it that way, but when you said that choosing what you call the “love” path brings one “amazing connectedness to one person (and potentially a few little people),” it almost sounds like a freudian slip, like all you get is the love of a few “little” people, as in nobodies, as opposed to if you choose “greatness” then you get the love and admiration of other “great” and influential people as well.

That said, I believe you were talking about children when you said “little people”

The point I’m trying to make is that yes, devoting one’s energies to the intimate sphere is not valued much by our society, but that doesn’t make it any less great, provided the person (most likely a woman) doing it is following her own true path, just as you are following yours.

I think any woman that has the slightest bit of ambition in a non-familiar sphere has angsted about the idea of having to choose between love and pursuing their passion and calling.

It’s sad that so many of us feel forced to choose between the two.

I strongly believe that love and greatness are not mutually exclusive. Who says love has to look a certain way, like being a stay at home mom and doing crosswords by the fire with your husband? Why does that have to be the only “normal?”

There’s room for all kinds of normal, including yours. True love is about people honoring each other for who they really are.

I hope this made some sense. I wrote it with a 3-year old underfoot. LOL

My experience over 60 years is… this question really rests on the answer to time versus money or both.

Consider… if you were born Queen or King, would you be concerned about being great? No.

It’s only those who want to make their mark that are even contemplate… becoming great.

Then, there others, who never strive for greatness… they just keep moving forward as different challenges arise. It’s other people who determine and define… if our achievements merit ‘greatness.’ Not us.

Me, I’m just attempting to be the best grand-father I can be. But only time will tell.

This kind of reminds me of conversation over coffee with a friend, slightly down on her luck. She told me she would like to become a life coach. I asked her…”If I were a customer, and I told you that I had climbed Mt. Everest two years ago, last year I had descended to the bottom of the Challenger Deep… and this year…I am bored. What would you advise me?”

I received a blank look.

What I’m saying… is you won’t know until you try.