Comments on: Dumped: The Survival Guide http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/ a world uncommon Thu, 09 Feb 2012 14:03:36 +0000 hourly 1 By: Fashion Marketing» Social Media & Influencing Personal Growth http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-51684 Fashion Marketing» Social Media & Influencing Personal Growth Mon, 08 Jun 2009 15:39:55 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/?p=509#comment-51684 [...] To continue on the road of growth, last week, I learned that one of most influential and inspiring women in my life is leaving sunny California and returning home to Montreal. I was surprised and a bit heartbroken; I was hoping to get to know her more in the next year. And now she’s moving to Canada! I feel like I’m the person surviving a breakup. [...] [...] To continue on the road of growth, last week, I learned that one of most influential and inspiring women in my life is leaving sunny California and returning home to Montreal. I was surprised and a bit heartbroken; I was hoping to get to know her more in the next year. And now she’s moving to Canada! I feel like I’m the person surviving a breakup. [...]

]]> By: Julia McAlpine http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-51668 Julia McAlpine Tue, 02 Jun 2009 21:04:51 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/?p=509#comment-51668 Great post! That's all so true! It's so easy to dwell on the past memories and want to keep up communication with someone you still care about, but it'll only hurt you over and over again. And that picture makes me sad :/ Great post!

That’s all so true! It’s so easy to dwell on the past memories and want to keep up communication with someone you still care about, but it’ll only hurt you over and over again.

And that picture makes me sad :/

]]> By: Deena Blas http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-51611 Deena Blas Fri, 29 May 2009 01:16:38 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/?p=509#comment-51611 I absolutely loved this post because it was probably the most frank and real that I've read in awhile..and of course my heart still kinda aches and every piece of advice(and day that goes by) it starts to feel a little better. I've printed this to share w/friends and myself, hopefully they don't all always end this hard. Thanks for sharing! I absolutely loved this post because it was probably the most frank and real that I’ve read in awhile..and of course my heart still kinda aches and every piece of advice(and day that goes by) it starts to feel a little better.

I’ve printed this to share w/friends and myself, hopefully they don’t all always end this hard.

Thanks for sharing!

]]> By: Ellen Crimi-Trent http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-51610 Ellen Crimi-Trent Thu, 28 May 2009 19:13:28 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/?p=509#comment-51610 I wish I had that book years ago! Although I have married now for almost 14 yrs the years before I found my husband were shear and utter torture. I recently looked at my collage journals and the ones after that and was amazed at how incredibly stupid I was obsessing over these horrible men, and if not to put insult to injury the whole Facebook thing has almost brought it all back again. However this time I had a better perspective on what decisions I made as well as theirs and glad that it ended up the way it did. I recently went out to dinner with an ex and realize Karma is a bitch and he ended up with what he deserved a loveless marriage! I hate to say it but I was almost joyful that his was a mess. If I had that book years ago I would have realized then that him breaking up with me was such a blessing! I am extremely glad you are moving into another path and don't worry- you will find the one who you are meant to find, I truly believe it. I recently watched this program on how the opposite sex attracts and the interesting thing they said is that we are attracted to a certain scent in a person because of mating. This scent will make us get together so we can make the perfect offspring- interesting note on that if you wear cologne or perfume the scent can be effected and you can end up with the wrong person- so find a guy who wears no cologne and see if he works! Actually my husband doesn't wear cologne- go figure- funny! Best of luck to you- love your post! Ellen I wish I had that book years ago! Although I have married now for almost 14 yrs the years before I found my husband were shear and utter torture. I recently looked at my collage journals and the ones after that and was amazed at how incredibly stupid I was obsessing over these horrible men, and if not to put insult to injury the whole Facebook thing has almost brought it all back again.

However this time I had a better perspective on what decisions I made as well as theirs and glad that it ended up the way it did. I recently went out to dinner with an ex and realize Karma is a bitch and he ended up with what he deserved a loveless marriage! I hate to say it but I was almost joyful that his was a mess. If I had that book years ago I would have realized then that him breaking up with me was such a blessing!

I am extremely glad you are moving into another path and don’t worry- you will find the one who you are meant to find, I truly believe it. I recently watched this program on how the opposite sex attracts and the interesting thing they said is that we are attracted to a certain scent in a person because of mating. This scent will make us get together so we can make the perfect offspring- interesting note on that if you wear cologne or perfume the scent can be effected and you can end up with the wrong person- so find a guy who wears no cologne and see if he works! Actually my husband doesn’t wear cologne- go figure- funny!

Best of luck to you- love your post!

Ellen

]]> By: dr/roné/di/kristu http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-51609 dr/roné/di/kristu Thu, 28 May 2009 10:02:43 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/?p=509#comment-51609 Usually I get over my ex in the bed of a new woman. After having had sex with another woman I kinda feel a little distance from the one that belonged my heart to. For me sex with a stranger really cures my broken heart because at that point there is no turning back. It is kinda self fulfilling-prophecy to me: I get over my ex in spite and because of our love. Otherwise I couldn't get intimate with another woman. After that I really stop to ruminating about my ex. It worked several times for me and as hard as every break up tends to be it really eases my pain. I once totally refused this way of getting over a woman because I considered it cheating (sic!) - hey and that's what it is really about: cheat your feelings to allign them with reality. If you cannot fix it, move on - by getting over it. And I prefer to do it the sexual way. ;) Usually I get over my ex in the bed of a new woman. After having had sex with another woman I kinda feel a little distance from the one that belonged my heart to.

For me sex with a stranger really cures my broken heart because at that point there is no turning back. It is kinda self fulfilling-prophecy to me: I get over my ex in spite and because of our love. Otherwise I couldn’t get intimate with another woman.

After that I really stop to ruminating about my ex. It worked several times for me and as hard as every break up tends to be it really eases my pain.

I once totally refused this way of getting over a woman because I considered it cheating (sic!) – hey and that’s what it is really about: cheat your feelings to allign them with reality. If you cannot fix it, move on – by getting over it. And I prefer to do it the sexual way. ;)

]]> By: suki http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-51606 suki Wed, 27 May 2009 21:32:31 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/?p=509#comment-51606 Great post! And this book sounds like a great read. I'll need to pick it up some time. :) Great post! And this book sounds like a great read. I’ll need to pick it up some time. :)

]]> By: Laura Iriarte http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-51583 Laura Iriarte Mon, 25 May 2009 17:42:22 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/?p=509#comment-51583 (((BIG hugs))) (((BIG hugs)))

]]> By: coldclimate http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-51581 coldclimate Mon, 25 May 2009 13:20:21 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/?p=509#comment-51581 My tick list (not used for a good few years mind) 1) zero contact 2) ringing everybody in your phone book because you've probably not spoken to enough friends lately. One a night, until you've caught up with everybody. 3) gin, but only in social circumstances. Drinking alone is bad bad bad. 4) pizza, eaten alone, followed by icecream. 5) spring clean - declutter your life, chuck all the crap in your flat and clean everything. feel new. My tick list (not used for a good few years mind)
1) zero contact
2) ringing everybody in your phone book because you’ve probably not spoken to enough friends lately. One a night, until you’ve caught up with everybody.
3) gin, but only in social circumstances. Drinking alone is bad bad bad.
4) pizza, eaten alone, followed by icecream.
5) spring clean – declutter your life, chuck all the crap in your flat and clean everything. feel new.

]]> By: Deja http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-51578 Deja Mon, 25 May 2009 07:58:40 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/?p=509#comment-51578 Amazing post, Tara. Lots of courage and insight and hard-won lessons. The analogy to physical addiction is spot-on. Like an ex-smoker whose dormant cravings waken upon the first whiff of a favorite cig brand, I find my cravings for a past love remain close to the surface ready to poke through at the slightest scent of my past lover. Amazing post, Tara.

Lots of courage and insight and hard-won lessons.

The analogy to physical addiction is spot-on.

Like an ex-smoker whose dormant cravings waken upon the first whiff of a favorite cig brand, I find my cravings for a past love remain close to the surface ready to poke through at the slightest scent of my past lover.

]]> By: Mark Simonds http://www.horsepigcow.com/2009/05/dumped-survival/comment-page-1/#comment-51576 Mark Simonds Mon, 25 May 2009 05:04:10 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/?p=509#comment-51576 What the deuce? Seth and I have the same last name. Not a common spelling at all. I had the privilege of hanging out with Tara a couple of days before this was written. Let me tell you, she is walking the talk. I'm not going to say which point numbers I saw her exhibiting ;-) A book that helped me recently is "Mindful Loving" (http://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Loving-Henry-Grayson/dp/1592400612/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1243227619&sr=8-1). I highly recommend it. Tara, you are an amazing person. I can't wait to see more on your road trip this summer! What the deuce? Seth and I have the same last name. Not a common spelling at all.

I had the privilege of hanging out with Tara a couple of days before this was written. Let me tell you, she is walking the talk. I’m not going to say which point numbers I saw her exhibiting ;-)

A book that helped me recently is “Mindful Loving” (http://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Loving-Henry-Grayson/dp/1592400612/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1243227619&sr=8-1). I highly recommend it.

Tara, you are an amazing person. I can’t wait to see more on your road trip this summer!

]]>