Comments on: The insidious danger of danger http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/ a world uncommon Thu, 09 Feb 2012 14:03:36 +0000 hourly 1 By: Christiane Rost http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/comment-page-2/#comment-47409 Christiane Rost Sun, 22 Jul 2007 18:30:38 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/13/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/#comment-47409 Found your text in weekly called "Internazionale" which translates articles published all over the world into Italian. Wanted to say "Thank you, Tara!". I was warned by many women in Italy to not going out on my own after dawn but I always did for many years. The riskiest situation I ever found myself in was when a huge guy stepped into my way one night in a park. He looked at me closely and said: "Your shoe-laces are open, lady" (He was right) We had an icecream together and that was it... Sometimes I think there are a lot of women who tend to hide behind the excuse of danger for coquetterie, lazieness and/or calculation: It makes you seem vulnerabile and cute and maybe even more interesting for certain guys. Having an opinion and speaking it out loud instead is not always easy and surely not appreciated by everyone; so why not choose the easy way: "I would if I only could but I can't because it puts me in danger". Found your text in weekly called “Internazionale” which translates articles published all over the world into Italian. Wanted to say “Thank you, Tara!”. I was warned by many women in Italy to not going out on my own after dawn but I always did for many years. The riskiest situation I ever found myself in was when a huge guy stepped into my way one night in a park. He looked at me closely and said: “Your shoe-laces are open, lady” (He was right) We had an icecream together and that was it…

Sometimes I think there are a lot of women who tend to hide behind the excuse of danger for coquetterie, lazieness and/or calculation: It makes you seem vulnerabile and cute and maybe even more interesting for certain guys.
Having an opinion and speaking it out loud instead is not always easy and surely not appreciated by everyone; so why not choose the easy way: “I would if I only could but I can’t because it puts me in danger”.

]]> By: heather gold http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/comment-page-2/#comment-47235 heather gold Sun, 08 Jul 2007 13:32:44 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/13/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/#comment-47235 Well said Tara. I would add that part of what keeps women cowering is just a disproportionate part of what keeps all of humanity cwering. The fear of being ourselves out loud in public is audacious. It might >makes someone else uncomfortable Well said Tara. I would add that part of what keeps women cowering is just a disproportionate part of what keeps all of humanity cwering. The fear of being ourselves out loud in public is audacious. It might >makes someone else uncomfortable

]]> By: Dr. C. E. Andruskewicz MA (Ohio) http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/comment-page-1/#comment-47162 Dr. C. E. Andruskewicz MA (Ohio) Sat, 07 Jul 2007 09:47:23 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/13/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/#comment-47162 Thanx from Fremantle, Western Lostralia, da "Map of Tazzie" DownUnder ! Yum. Thanx from Fremantle, Western Lostralia, da “Map of Tazzie” DownUnder ! Yum.

]]> By: whoever http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/comment-page-1/#comment-47059 whoever Fri, 06 Jul 2007 02:29:43 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/13/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/#comment-47059 To others who may me inspired to follow suit, consider that many of the most powerful people on the planet value discretion above all else. Fear is not an issue precisely because they are working from a position of strength. Think carefully on the value of your anonymity before forfeiting it. To others who may me inspired to follow suit, consider that many of the most powerful people on the planet value discretion above all else. Fear is not an issue precisely because they are working from a position of strength. Think carefully on the value of your anonymity before forfeiting it.

]]> By: Mary Branscombe http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/comment-page-1/#comment-46568 Mary Branscombe Tue, 03 Jul 2007 22:25:43 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/13/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/#comment-46568 I have a friend who has a creepy stalker hacker ex, recently released from jail after serving a rather too short sentence for a horrific attack on her. she stays anonymous online because she has an actual nut job who may try to find and attack her again. he is not a random stranger who will find her online and try to attack her; to be a likely victim of attacks by strangers it helps to be a 30-year old man. they are far and away the most common victims. in the (counts on fingers) 17 years I've been on the Net and the Web I've had maybe three sick emails and I've used my own name and written personal details; I've also chosen to keep deeply personal information in closed forums because that's where I want it to be. In fact I've been propositioned much more repulsively in person (I looked 18 at 14 and that gets you attention from some disturbed individuals) but I'd have to search my memory for the details. I wasn't brought up to feel I wouldn't be safe at night, out on my own and I'm very glad of it. This assumption that as a woman you're just not safe is disempowering and dangerous, patronising and in the West at least not at all accurate. I have a friend who has a creepy stalker hacker ex, recently released from jail after serving a rather too short sentence for a horrific attack on her. she stays anonymous online because she has an actual nut job who may try to find and attack her again. he is not a random stranger who will find her online and try to attack her; to be a likely victim of attacks by strangers it helps to be a 30-year old man. they are far and away the most common victims. in the (counts on fingers) 17 years I’ve been on the Net and the Web I’ve had maybe three sick emails and I’ve used my own name and written personal details; I’ve also chosen to keep deeply personal information in closed forums because that’s where I want it to be. In fact I’ve been propositioned much more repulsively in person (I looked 18 at 14 and that gets you attention from some disturbed individuals) but I’d have to search my memory for the details. I wasn’t brought up to feel I wouldn’t be safe at night, out on my own and I’m very glad of it. This assumption that as a woman you’re just not safe is disempowering and dangerous, patronising and in the West at least not at all accurate.

]]> By: The Third Bit » Blog Archive » The Danger of Danger http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/comment-page-1/#comment-43210 The Third Bit » Blog Archive » The Danger of Danger Tue, 26 Jun 2007 12:39:50 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/13/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/#comment-43210 [...] Good post from Tara Hunt (ex-Saskatchewan, ex-Toronto, now doing the Web 2.0 startup thang) about how all the warnings and discussion about the crap women have to deal with online contributes to the climate of fear.  Interesting and well-reasoned; comments are worth a read too.  (Via Adam Goucher, again.) [...] [...] Good post from Tara Hunt (ex-Saskatchewan, ex-Toronto, now doing the Web 2.0 startup thang) about how all the warnings and discussion about the crap women have to deal with online contributes to the climate of fear.  Interesting and well-reasoned; comments are worth a read too.  (Via Adam Goucher, again.) [...]

]]> By: A Year’s Summary of Personal Reflection « ITSinsider http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/comment-page-1/#comment-43026 A Year’s Summary of Personal Reflection « ITSinsider Tue, 26 Jun 2007 00:31:25 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/13/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/#comment-43026 [...] sure humanizes us, and we act a lot more friendly. Because of an incredibly powerful post I read on Tara Hunt’s blog, I put up photos of my children on Facebook this week. That woman effected a change in my behavior. [...] [...] sure humanizes us, and we act a lot more friendly. Because of an incredibly powerful post I read on Tara Hunt’s blog, I put up photos of my children on Facebook this week. That woman effected a change in my behavior. [...]

]]> By: Off Topic :: links for 2007-06-22 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/comment-page-1/#comment-42205 Off Topic :: links for 2007-06-22 Fri, 22 Jun 2007 23:32:42 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/13/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/#comment-42205 [...] ::HorsePigCow:: marketing uncommon » The insidious danger of danger Brilliant post by Tara Hunt on women and privacy on the internet (tags: women) [...] [...] ::HorsePigCow:: marketing uncommon » The insidious danger of danger Brilliant post by Tara Hunt on women and privacy on the internet (tags: women) [...]

]]> By: tecosystems » links for 2007-06-22 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/comment-page-1/#comment-42077 tecosystems » links for 2007-06-22 Fri, 22 Jun 2007 05:33:59 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/13/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/#comment-42077 [...] ::HorsePigCow:: marketing uncommon » The insidious danger of danger interesting, because i’ve had this same conversation with female friends many times in the past (tags: gender fear privacy safety blogging women men via:Anne) [...] [...] ::HorsePigCow:: marketing uncommon » The insidious danger of danger interesting, because i’ve had this same conversation with female friends many times in the past (tags: gender fear privacy safety blogging women men via:Anne) [...]

]]> By: Tessa http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/comment-page-1/#comment-41466 Tessa Tue, 19 Jun 2007 21:21:20 +0000 http://www.horsepigcow.com/2007/06/13/the-insidious-danger-of-danger/#comment-41466 Well said, I'm gonna nick this subject for my blog post I think. :-)I hate this whole -oh you've got to be so safe and anonymous, who knows what'll happen otherwise- thing. I mean -yeah there are dangers with being online, but it's dangerous crossing the street too. Well said, I’m gonna nick this subject for my blog post I think. :-) I hate this whole -oh you’ve got to be so safe and anonymous, who knows what’ll happen otherwise- thing. I mean -yeah there are dangers with being online, but it’s dangerous crossing the street too.

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